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The Lost Masterpiece (Pinchas 5778) – Rabbi Jonathan Sacks

A true story that took place in 1995: It concerns the legacy of an unusual man with an unusual name: Mr Ernest Onians, a farmer in East Anglia whose main business was as a supplier of pigswill. Known as an eccentric, his hobby was collecting paintings. He used to go around local auctions and whenever […]

WWW.JEWISHLIFE.COZA From the editor Robert Sussman

For the past few months, the community has been davening for Leah bat Toby and then, after a name was added, Chaya Leah bat Toby. What most people probably didn’t realise is that Chaya Leah bat Toby was our very own friend and colleague, Linda Superfain (nee Koz), a”h. A devoted mother, daughter, sister, and […]

Inside/Outside by RABBI YOSSY GOLDMAN, SYDENHAM SHUL | Jun 14, 2018

Inside/Outside   Some arguments are petty affairs between insecure individuals, while others are classic differences of opinion between people of stature, where each opinion is worthy of consideration. by RABBI YOSSY GOLDMAN, SYDENHAM SHUL | Jun 14, 2018 This week’s Parsha tells the story of the mutiny of Korach, a cousin of Moses who challenged […]


M. Scott Peck – Further along the road less travelled

Growing up – Excerpt from the book by M. Scott Peck – Further along the road less travelled. “When I was stationed with the armed services on Okinawa, I was asked to treat a nineteen-year-old woman suffering from hyperemesis gravidarum – excessive vomiting in pregnancy. I learned that she had grown up on the east […]


The Power of Praise (Tazria-Metzora 5778) – Rabbi Jonathan Sacks

From time to time couples come to see me before their wedding. Sometimes they ask me whether I have any advice to give them as to how to make their marriage strong. In reply I give them a simple suggestion. It is almost magical in its effects. It will make their relationship strong and in […]


My Gift to You

“One day I had lunch with some old friends. Jim, a short, balding golfer type, about 85-years old, came along with them; all in all, it was a pleasant bunch. When the menus were presented, my friends and I ordered salads, sandwiches, and soups, except for Jim who said, “A large piece of home-made apple […]


Elephant Whisperer

“For 12 hours, two herds of wild South African elephants slowly made their way through the Zululand bush until they reached the house of late author Lawrence Anthony, the conservationist who saved their lives.The formerly violent, rogue elephants, destined to be shot a few years ago as pests, were rescued and rehabilitated by Anthony, who […]



THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE BratfttDyutyFlyHert Part One Paradigms and Principles INSIDE-OUT There is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living — David Starr Jordan * * * In more than 25 years of working with people in business, university, and marriage and family settings, I […]


The power of words




The Naked Truth of Life

There was a man with four wives. He loved his fourth wife the most and took great care of her and gave her the best. He also loved his third wife and always wanted to show her off to his friends. However, he always had a fear that she might runaway with some other man. […]


The Chain of Love – Clay Walker

He was driving home one evening In his beat-up Pontiac When an old lady flagged him down Her Mercedes had a flat He could see that she was frightened Standing out there in the snow ‘Til he said ‘I’m here to help you, ma’m By the way, my name’s Joe’ She said ‘I’m from St. […]


Cantor Abraham Immerman z”l

New film sheds light on a truly remarkable man It’s been almost 15 years since the death of the much beloved blind chazzan and teacher Cantor Abraham Immerman z’l, who died in Cape Town on 7 April 2003 aged 96. Known as “Der Blinde Chazzan” and “The Man with the Computer Brain”, due to his […]


Oedipus? Didn’t he have something to do with Freud?”

Excerpt from “Think like a shrink and keep yourself sane” by Joseph Dunn Oedipus? Didn’t he have something to do with Freud?” Before I go on I must mention Oedipus. You have heard his name before in avant-garde movies or mentioned by know-it-alls at showy cocktail parties. You want to ask “He had something to […]


The man who sold very good hot dogs

There was once a man who lived by the side of the road and sold hot dogs.  He was hard of hearing so he had no radio – he had trouble with his eyes, so he read no newspapers and of course he didn’t look at television.  But he sold very good hot dogs. He […]


7 Friends to keep Forever


Medical symbol – from the Greeks or God

Parshot Festivals   Medical symbol – from the Greeks or G-d? Ever wondered what the medical emblem of the snake wrapped around a stick means? No doubt you’re familiar with it – it’s used around the world and it’s in the centre of the Magen David of the emblem of our very own Hatzolah. But […]


The Story of Gillian Lynne ~ excerpted from the book The Element by Ken Robinson

The Story of Gillian Lynne ~ excerpted from the book The Element by Ken Robinson Gillian was only eight years old, but her future was already at risk. Her schoolwork was a disaster, at least as far as her teachers were concerned. She turned in assignments late, her handwriting was terrible, and she tested poorly. […]



ENTHUSIASM! That certain something that makes us great – pulls us out of the mediocre and commonplace – that builds into us Power. It glows and shines, it lights up our faces.    ENTHUSIASM! The keynote that makes us sing and makes men sing with us.    ENTHUSIASM! The maker of friends – the maker […]


Twelve Points On Attitude

Twelve Points On Attitude   It is your attitude at the beginning of a task more than anything else that will determine your success or failure. It is your attitude towards life that will determine life’s attitude towards you. Despite many people’s belief to the contrary, life plays no favorites. You control your attitude. If […]



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“Escape from Freedom”, by M. Scott Peck

  “Escape from Freedom”, by M. Scott Peck Published on February 19, 2017   “Freelance language practitioner When a psychiatrist makes the diagnosis of a character disorder, it is because the pattern of avoidance of responsibility is relatively gross in the diagnosed individual. Yet almost all of us from time to time seek to avoid […]

The Two Travelers and the Farmer

North America A traveler came upon an old farmer hoeing in his field beside the road. Eager to rest his feet, the wanderer hailed the countryman, who seemed happy enough to straighten his back and talk for a moment.”What sort of people live in the next town?” asked the stranger. “What were the people like […]


Suspended Coffee

One day as my friends and I entered a coffee shop we heard the person before us place their order. “Five coffees, please. Two for us and three suspended.” They pay for their order, take the two coffees and leave. Then a young couple came in, “We’ll have four coffees. Two for us and two […]


Dr J E Kwegyir Aggrey

‘A certain man went through a forest seeking any bird he might find.  He caught a young bird, brought it home, and put it among his fowls and ducks and turkeys, and gave it chicken’s food to eat.  Five years later, a naturalist came to visit the man, and noticed the bird.  He said to […]


Dog Attacks Owner-Maurice Weber

Dog Attacks Owner-Maurice Weber – Monday, June 07, 1999 Since my daughter, Bianca has gone through my address book and informed family and friends in all parts of the world of my ordeal, I am glad to be able to type with my left hand and give you an update on my condition. On Wednesday […]

Being tolerant is better than being great

by Joshua Sevitz (Cape Town Chairman and High school Madrich) Bnei Akiva maddies dated 2011/5772 There is a story related from the Talmud (Taanit 25b) regarding a time of drought in the land of Israel. Rabbi Eliezer stepped forward in front of the Aaron Hakodesh and recited the twenty-four benedictions (for fast days) and his […]



John wakes up with a huge hangover after attending his company’s Christmas Party. John is not normally a drinker, but the drinks didn’t taste like alcohol at all. He didn’t even remember how he got home from the party. As bad as he was feeling, he wondered if he did something wrong. John had to […]


Listening and the Family

Listening and the Family Education commences at the mother’s knee, and every word spoken within the hearing of little children tends towards the formation of character. ¯ Hosea Ballou I think a lot of our problems are because people don’t listen to our children.  It is not always easy. They’re not always so brilliant that […]

Inspirations- By Dr. Vasant Khisty

These are quotes from Famous people which have been elaborated by me. Each inspiration is followed by a poem written by me followed by an elaboration. The pictures are Taken from the internet and the blog has no commercial implication. “Put your mind into gear before putting your mouth into motion.”- Inspired by Caroline McLean. […]

A man died…

When he realized it, he saw God coming closer with a suitcase in his hand. Dialog between God and Dead Man: God: *Alright son, it’s time to go* Man: So soon? I had a lot of plans… God: *I am sorry but, it’s time to go* Man: What do you have in that suitcase? God: […]

Wine or Water

There was once a king who was visiting a town. In preparation for the king’s visit the town decided to fill a giant barrel with wine and present it to the king upon his arrival. Where were they going to get so much wine to fill the giant barrel? They came up with a brilliant […]


World Champion Toastmasters

Toastmasters International is a network of clubs that promotes public speaking. Its global presence has garnered it more than 345,000 members across 142 countries.         Transcript: Click here       Transcript: Click here      

Trompenaars’ dimensions of cross-cultural analysis

The story below, created by Stouffer and Toby (Americans), is another exercise used in our workshops. It takes the form of a dilemma which measures universal and particularist responses. Question You are in a car driven by a close friend. He hits a pedestrian. You know he was going at least 35 miles per hour […]

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person. When someone is in your life for a  REASON. . . It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to […]

Happiness is an Attitude

The 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud lady, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o’clock, with her hair fashionably coifed and makeup perfectly applied, even though she is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. Her husband of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary. After many hours of waiting patiently […]

There are many different solutions to a problem

Some time ago I received a call from a colleague. He was about to give a student a zero for his answer to a physics question, while the student claimed a perfect score. The instructor and the student agreed to an impartial arbiter, and I was selected. I read the examination question: “Show how it […]

The Obstacle in our Path

In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king’s wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the king for not keeping the roads clear, but none […]


A little girl was ill in hospital with a rare blood disorder and was badly in need of a blood donor but a match could not be found. As a last resort, her six year old brother was checked as a match and much to everyones relief, he was. Both his mother and Doctor sat […]

A MIRACLE OF $1.10 (claimed to be a true story)

Tess was a precocious eight year old when she heard her Mom and Dad talking about her little brother, Andrew. All she knew was that he was very sick and they were completely out of money. They were moving to an apartment complex next month because Daddy didn’t have the money for the doctor bills […]

Know the Cleaning Lady

By Amy Taylor,July 18, 2011 Hello! (I say with a smile) Once in a great while, the magic of internet serendipity passes something my way that gives me pause to stop and think. The following story is one such thing. Like so many bits of interweb wisdom, it seems nobody knows exactly where this came […]


Jerry is a manager of a restaurant; he is always in a good mood. When someone would ask him how was doing, he would always reply, “If I were any better, I would be twins!” Many of the waiters in the restaurant quit their job when he changed job. So they could follow him around from restaurant […]

The power of generosity

Many years ago, a 10-year-old boy walked up to the counter of a soda shop and climbed onto a stool. He caught the eye of the waitress and asked, “How much is an ice cream sundae?” “Fifty cents,” the waitress replied. The boy reached into his pockets, pulled out a handful of change, and began […]

Who I Am Makes a Difference

Teacher’s classroom lesson about making a difference prevents a teenage suicide. A teacher in New York decided to honour each of her seniors in high school by telling them the difference they each made. She called each student to the front of the class, one at a time. First she told each of them how […]

This is what love is all about

It was a busy morning, approximately 8:30 a.m., when an elderly gentleman in his 80’s arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He stated that he was in a hurry, as he had an appointment at 9:00 a.m. I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over […]


On the first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn’t already know. I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up […]

Remember the five simple rules to be happy

Remember the five simple rules to be happy: 1. Free your heart from hatred. 2. Free your mind from worries. 3. Live simply. 4. Give more. 5. Expect less. No one can go back and make a brand new start. Anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending. God didn’t promise days […]

The Tale Of Two Pebbles

Many years ago in a small Indian village, a farmer had the misfortune of owing a large sum of money to a village moneylender. The moneylender, who was old and ugly, fancied the farmer’s beautiful daughter. So he proposed a bargain. He said he would forgo the farmer’s debt if he could marry his daughter. […]

The Black Dot

This beautiful story has a simple, yet important message. I hope as many people as possible give it a read. I know I am happy I read it, as it gave me a few things to think about in my own life. Sometimes it is the simplest of stories that make us ponder the most. […]

A Farmer’s Donkey

One day a farmer’s donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn’t worth it to retrieve the donkey. He invited all his […]

Two Men Come Down The Same Chimney

A young man in his mid-twenties knocks on the door of the noted scholar Rabbi Schwartz. “My name is Jamison Goldstein,” he says. “I’ve come to you because I wish to study Talmud.” “Do you know Aramaic?” the rabbi asks. “No.” “Hebrew?” “No.” “Have you studied Torah?” “No, Rabbi. But don’t worry. I graduated Berkeley […]

The accidental Talmudist

The Tzaddik of Sanz once stood at his window and called in a passerby. “What would you do,” he asked, “if you found a purse with a large sum of money, and the name of its owner was in it?” “What kind of question is that?” the man responded. “I would immediately return it.” … […]

What Makes Tea Sweet?

An Exercise in Logic A yeshiva student said to one of his fellows, “The sages ask: What makes the glass of tea sweet? If I reply that it is because of the sugar then I must ask: What is the teaspoon’s purpose? The answer: To sweeten the tea, for which the proof is as follows: […]

A woman who waited for hours to receive the Rebbe’s blessing

A woman who waited for hours to receive the Rebbe’s blessing finally reached the front of the line. “Rebbe”, she said, “How do you have the strength to stand for so long? How do you not get tired interacting with so many people?” With a warm smile the Rebbe responded, “Every Jew is a precious […]

The Power of a Paradigm Shift

“Perhaps the most important insight to be gained from the perception demonstration is in the area of paradigm shifting, what we might call the “Aha!” experience when someone finally “sees” the composite picture in another way. The more bound a person is by the initial perception, the more powerful the “A ha!” experience is. It’sas […]

Three Men and a Baby

There once were three men, each driven by the need to make a success of themselves and their lives. Each man headed off to work every day looking for something that would change his way of life for the better. The first man arrived and work, thinking hard about the things he needed to do […]

A Simple Prayer

My son Gilbert was eight years old and had been in Cub Scouts only a short time. During one of his meetings he was handed a sheet of paper, a block of wood and four tires and told to return home and give all to “dad.” That was not an easy task for Gilbert to […]

The Town Clerk

Tim got a promotion and moved into a new town and asked the Town Clerk, “What are the people in this town like?” The Town Clerk asked, “What were the people like in the town you just left?” Tim answered, “They were unfriendly and nasty.” And the Town Clerk said, “I think you’ll find the people […]

The Frog Story

Once upon a time, a group of small frogs decided to have a climbing competition. Their goal was to reach the top of a very tall tower. The frog community was very happy and excited. Many frogs gathered around the tower to watch the race and cheer the competitors on. The tower was so tall […]


The cracked jar

An Indian legend tells of a man who carried water to his village every day, in two large jars tied to the ends of a wooden pole, which he balanced on his back. One of the jars was older than the other, and had some small cracks; every time the man covered the distance to […]

7.23.13 Life and Death are in the Power of the Tongue

The following is based on Midrash Tehillim — The Midrash on Psalms — on Ps. 39:1: “I will watch my ways that I don’t sin with my tongue.“ A tale: A Persian king was sick, and his doctors told him, “There’s no healing for you unless lioness’ milk is given to you.” One doctor spoke […]

What happens in heaven

I dreamt that I went to Heaven and an angel was showing me around. We walked side-by-side inside a large workroom filled with angels. My angel guide stopped in front of the first section and said, “This Is the Receiving Section. Here, all petitions to God said in prayer are received”. I looked around in […]


Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room.

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room’s only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. […]